Gratitude is a practice.

December 1, 2013

It’s been over a year since I sat down quietly with my thoughts. A year of living dangerously.  Time has been limited. The world has been demanding and then there was this cookbook project.  I bit off more than I could socially chew and find myself missing my blog and more importantly, missing my reflections.

 So often we get caught up in projects and deadlines and the never ending to do list.  I get dizzy sometimes from all the “busy-ness”. I’ve been learning to slow down.  To take a break when I feel overwhelmed. My grandpa Kermit told me (a thousand times) to “walk on the sunny side of the street”.  It only took me thirty plus years to absorb the information.

Gratitude is a practice.  It requires that we slow down.  I’ve spent most of my life asking “what’s wrong?” instead of confirming what is right. It’s exhausting and depleting and entirely the wrong question for happiness. Gratitude is the tool I use to examine what’s right so I can manifest more of the good things.

I truly believe happiness is a series of habits we create.  It took years to understand and seconds to change. It will take a lifetime to perfect.

The Fresh 20 Boys

So much to be grateful for...

Our lives can be full of complaints and concerns or it can be filled with compliment and contentedness.  Everyday is a chance to sing praises and work on the good stuff.  Negativity is easy.  Staying positive is a gift I’m giving myself this holiday season.  Any takers?


One Simple Change: Surprisingly Easy Ways to Transform Your Life

I recently received this book from the author, Winnie Abramson. For under ten dollars, it’s worth the reminder that we all can make small changes to receive big rewards. I’m thinking of using it as my 2014 guide to better living.

What changes are you making for more health and happiness?

{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

Christina December 7, 2013 at 1:44 PM

What you have written is so true, and when I catch myself complaining, I almost instantly think of people who don’t even have the opportunity to complain about what my problem is (first world problems). Then I realized the other day that I had two friends who had recently taken trips to Europe and I was beyond thrilled and incredibly happy for them…when lo and behold, a trip to Europe popped out of the blue for me too! Some people will say it’s coincidence, but I believe in something bigger…

Keep on writing, Melissa, you’re a natural. xx


Melissa December 9, 2013 at 7:55 AM

So many of our complaints are what my sister calls “Hollywood Problems”. I have to catch myself too, especially when I get upset about taking out the trash. ; )


Lizthechef December 7, 2013 at 4:49 PM

I made a change in my health by losing 30 pounds since March – slowly, one pound at a time. To cope with rich holiday recipes, I have skipped making some and “lightened” some others. I found that folks welcome a cheese and fruit plate for dessert and are grateful to lose the pumpkin cheesecake…


Melissa December 9, 2013 at 7:56 AM

That’s an amazing accomplishment Liz. I love that you did it without living on lemon juice and cayenne. It’s about small changes, never quick fixes. Good on ya!


Winnie December 7, 2013 at 5:59 PM

I love your writing so much (always have!) and I am happy to see you writing again here. Thank you so much for sharing my book in this post.


Melissa December 9, 2013 at 7:58 AM

Winnie, I’m taking your book into 2014 as a meditation. And I’ve already started with morning water. And I’m water adverse, so thank you for the push.


Cathy | She Paused 4 Thought December 7, 2013 at 6:14 PM

Your Grandpa Kermit was a wise soul. I love what he taught you about walking on the sunny side of the street… and I would add especially when it is raining. :)

I love the title of the book One Simple Change. What a great reminder to focus on the positive side of life. I will have to check it out. Thanks for sharing.


Melissa December 9, 2013 at 8:00 AM

Yes, even in the rain! Lessons are all around us all the time. Now if anyone knows how to make a sunny side up egg without the white film over the yolk, I’m all ears.


Laura Fuentes December 7, 2013 at 7:34 PM

I totally get what you mean with “a year of living dangerously.” 2013 came and has quickly gone… almost. I often believe that our life can seem filled with abundance because of our deep sense of gratitude we carry. You’ve done an amazing job this year at staying together… and I am thrilled you’ve heard the “knock” to slow down and reflect a little. Here is to an amazing 2014. Have a merry Christmas with your family, xoxo Laura


Melissa December 9, 2013 at 8:01 AM

Laura, I need a good title like SuperGlueMom to remind me!


Carmen Mackey December 9, 2013 at 1:24 PM

Self-Care is my gift to myself! When I feel rested and healthy I am then centered and feel worthy and energetic. I plan to purchase “one simple change.”



Melissa December 9, 2013 at 3:43 PM

Carmen, You might find one in your stocking!


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